One of my closest friends has recently started dating someone. We have both gone through years of daters and serious boyfriends. The difference for her this time is that this guy is the real deal. He is someone that she really interested in, someone she can see herself with.
This guy has potential, and it is scaring the shit out of my friend. Any woman reading this will understand. There are guys you date and get involved with that you know, somewhere deep down inside, will never go anywhere. And somehow that seems safe. You can enjoy the romance without really having to bare anything.
And then there are the guys that have potential. It is these men who strike fear in your heart in the early days of dating. These men typically have their shit together, they have their own lives and they are coming at you whole. For us women who have dated the available but not really available, these men are terrifying.
My friend sent me a virtual fist bump yesterday via text. The bump was props to me and mine for being in a relationship, for putting it on the line and for keeping it all going. I assured her that she too would get used to the feeling of being emotionally uncomfortable on a daily basis. I shared my perspective which is that good relationships are one contradiction after another. Awesome and horrible. Pure joy and absolute misery. Like riding a crazy roller coaster with unexpected turns while wearing a blindfold.